• Libb@jlai.lu
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    2 days ago

    Not sure to understand the question? How could you not know?

    If you’re thinking about finding the ‘perfect’ partner, forget about that. It’s a lie. It’s something fabricated to sell ads, page views and subscriptions to shitty services. Nobody (including you and me), nobody is perfect. So, no relationship can be perfect.

    My spouse and I have been together for 25+ years and counting. It was quite obvious very early on we’re fitting together nicely but that was far from being a perfect match and we had a few rough times and, all those years later, we can still have. But we’ve quickly realized how lucky we were to have found each other, and we valued that enough to get over any difficulty or hardship. And we still do.

    So, to me that’s a ‘right relationship’, just not ‘the’ right one as we could as easily have both been as happy with someone else if things had been different ;)

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      I second you on the point about a “perfect partner”. However I still think a relationship can be “perfect”, because a relationship is much more than just the two people involved.

      As long as we accept that no realistic relationship is completely without conflict, I would say that a “perfect relationship” involves being able to work through the issues that inevitably show up. It’s something you build together, not something you just have.

      My impression is that the current “dating economy” breaks this perception a bit, to the point where a lot of people end up looking for the “perfect partner” that they automatically form the “perfect relationship” with, and aren’t willing to do much hard work to build that relationship. I don’t think that kind of “perfect relationship” (without any work) exists.

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        As long as we accept that no realistic relationship is completely without conflict, I would say that a “perfect relationship” involves being able to work through the issues that inevitably show up. It’s something you build together, not something you just have.

        Isn’t it what I just wrote? Real question (my English is lacking so…)

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          I didn’t mean to come off as disagreeing with you, I think we generally agree. My point was that I think there can be such a thing as a “perfect relationship”, as long as we have a realistic idea of what that entails. I definitely agree that the idea of a “perfect relationship” that a lot of media tries to sell us is completely unrealistic though.

          Your english is great btw :)