I got divorced like 5 months ago after a 9 years with this girl who cheated on me, emotionally abused me, etc etc

I’ve been suicidal since the split, getting worse by the day still, and literally nobody ever asked if I was OK, aside from my mom. Even when I begged close friends for support they basically just ghosted me. My ex is surrounded by support, from the same people who I thought were my best friends.

Do I just have shitty people around me or is this just what guys deal with? The attitude towards me is just “get over it”. I’ve lost almost everyone I’m close to because of this and I’m starting to think there might actually be one viable option of getting over it because existing is simply torture. All of 2025 felt like just a bad dream but it’s unfortunately real.

Edit: Yes I have a counselor - a very good one I see weekly.

  • rabber@lemmy.caOPEnglish
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    2 days ago

    I told everyone she cheated on me too which backfired amazingly lol

    She told everyone I requested an open relationship so it didn’t count

    Master manipulator

    • blarghly@lemmy.worldEnglish
      8·
      2 days ago

      I mean, basically you failed to cultivate deep and meaningful relationships with other people is the problem. Did you ever open up to your friends about anything before your break up? Did they ever open up to you, or come to you with their problems? Did you have friends who were “your friends” who you often hung out with while she didn’t?

      I’m a guy. I have male friends. I would support them in an instant if they were going through a breakup. I would expect my male friends (and my female friends) to do the same. Is this rare or weird? I dunno. I’m just me. I don’t have experience living anyone else’s life. But I’d recommend finding some friends who can form a support network for you whether or not it is “normal”. If it’s normal, be normal. If it isn’t, fuck being normal. Go be weird.

      • rabber@lemmy.caOPEnglish
        21·
        2 days ago

        Well at one point i did suggest an open relationship but she didn’t agree to it haha

            • Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
              2·
              20 hours ago

              We learn from our mistakes don’t we? Hows it go, it’s only truly a mistake if we don’t learn from it.

              It’s still your liberation day, and I still wish you the best in finding what you need in life. Love a good fresh start, be kind to yourself out there, stay genuine to your heart.