I got divorced like 5 months ago after a 9 years with this girl who cheated on me, emotionally abused me, etc etc

I’ve been suicidal since the split, getting worse by the day still, and literally nobody ever asked if I was OK, aside from my mom. Even when I begged close friends for support they basically just ghosted me. My ex is surrounded by support, from the same people who I thought were my best friends.

Do I just have shitty people around me or is this just what guys deal with? The attitude towards me is just “get over it”. I’ve lost almost everyone I’m close to because of this and I’m starting to think there might actually be one viable option of getting over it because existing is simply torture. All of 2025 felt like just a bad dream but it’s unfortunately real.

Edit: Yes I have a counselor - a very good one I see weekly.

  • sunshine@lemmy.ml
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    2 days ago

    hey man, I’m so sorry this is happening to you.

    some people in here are taking the view that society is less kind to men than to women. everyone’s entitled to their opinion, I guess.

    I wanted you tell you though that I share your experience to some extent; I went through a breakup maybe 6 years ago and I lost almost all of my closest friends in that breakup. I’m not even on bad terms with my ex, lol. but it did just shake out that way. I’ve needed to build new roots, and I’ve had to do some introspection and learn how to go about building roots (partly since I’d moved to a new place).

    hang in there. I don’t really want to say “let yourself move on” because your story is part of who you are, and right now that breakup and that rift with those friends is such an immediate and intense part of your story, but I promise it will become much less immediate and less intense with time.