I got divorced like 5 months ago after a 9 years with this girl who cheated on me, emotionally abused me, etc etc
I’ve been suicidal since the split, getting worse by the day still, and literally nobody ever asked if I was OK, aside from my mom. Even when I begged close friends for support they basically just ghosted me. My ex is surrounded by support, from the same people who I thought were my best friends.
Do I just have shitty people around me or is this just what guys deal with? The attitude towards me is just “get over it”. I’ve lost almost everyone I’m close to because of this and I’m starting to think there might actually be one viable option of getting over it because existing is simply torture. All of 2025 felt like just a bad dream but it’s unfortunately real.
Edit: Yes I have a counselor - a very good one I see weekly.
I’m sorry that you’re in this position and I can unfortunately understand on a deep level on just how distressing it can feel to be alone.
This situation that you’re describing is really painfully close to what I personally experienced with one of my own breakups.
Men are often viewed as the ones who should predominantly pull themselves up by their bootstraps and as such shouldn’t be given empathy or the right to be listened to.
It really sucks that these kinds of disconnection happens when reality really doesn’t have to be this way.
I unfortunately can’t say anything that could possibly fix this landscape but please know that you are not alone. 💪
💖🙌 Your pain and emotional distress is real, you deserve love just as everyone else. 🔥💖
If possible, I’d highly reaching out to your local social empathy/mental help centres as I’ve personally found help there and they might be able to help you as well🍀🌻
100%
It is, oddly enough, another side effect of misogyny and "the patriarchy " that is not often recognized. Sadly, when it is recognized, it can be distorted by hateful opportunists looking to for profit and influence in the name of men’s rights.
I hope OP finds the support he needs.
I have one particular friend who left me because he thinks I’m anti feminist due to this exact sentiment.
It’s important that you phrase your frustration and anger and sadness entirely on who. This wasn’t women as a whole, this was one woman who stabbed you in the back.
Thanks.