I’ve got Java code older than a decade I have to deal with too…

Seconding this advice.

I think also for me it helped to think of it as a long term effort. Trying to get into a relationship as fast as possible isn’t really realistic or healthy. Once I stopped trying to hard to pull everyone I was interested in, I felt a lot more comfortable being myself and just shooting my shot, if it didn’t hit or we didn’t vibe it was ok.

Definitely agree that it’s a skill, and the more you do it the more comfortable you’ll be. You’ve got this!

There’s a great book “The Mathematician’s Lament” that talks about how math teaching is almost guaranteed to make people hate it, but it’s maybe not a conspiracy. Or is it!?