No, personal mindset. Stop laying everything you don’t like at the feet of “men” at large. I’ve been an ally my whole life, but I identify as a cishet man, and I’m tired of the prejudice against my penis. Nothing about being a man requires a lack of emotion or empathy. Some people are just arseholes.

As well, you claim every single woman loved every single one of her babies, throughout all of human history, because you spoke to one woman who felt that way. Statistically, you are unlikely to be correct in your assertion.

Surely attachment isn’t in the instant of adoption or birth, right?

The instant of birth, sometimes; sometimes it’s before the birth even. Sometimes it does take time; my friend didn’t feel much when his sons were born but he got attached very quickly. Still, his is the only case I’ve heard of my parent friends not getting attached at birth or before.

I think this is just highly individual, which is why so many people are responding so negatively. I also think that if you do end up having kids of your own, you might be surprised at how much you care about them even before the birth. Or, maybe not. I just know there’s a good chance your emotions won’t do what you think they will.

I think this is a very valid answer as to why someone would hold a funeral for a toddler. Funerals are for the living, and it makes perfect sense a parent might want to mourn the future their child never got to have.

This is about the shittiest argument you could make. Good luck in your search, maybe you’ll find some self-awareness along the way.

Ugh, of course those people would point to any source that supports their current claim, without vetting the source itself. They’ll even tell you that of course they don’t support antisemitism, while spouting that antisemitic Irving shit all day, and that’s okay because they pick and choose only what they agree with out of the rhetoric. As though they couldn’t find sources that support their point without the concomitant antisemitism.

First and foremost, then, I’d go about this by not denying the genocide in Gaza and not saying stuff such as “I bet you love Palestine” like it’s a pejorative, spacecadet.

My second point would be to recognise that there is no moral or ethical reason not to pirate Irving’s works. If you were able to find it at a library, it would be there because someone paid a publisher for the copy and likely some kind of library license. Some of that goes to Irving. There is no way to deny him profit and acquire his work legally. So, pirate it. Fuck that guy.