Mine’s a picture of a cow. Just sayin’.

One of the harsh lessons in software is learning that users sometimes have different wants and expectations than the developer. Gold-plating is a constant temptation, and it usually leads to frustration and resentment.

At the end of the day, if 60-70% of people don’t care, either do it for the 30-40%, or do it for your own enjoyment, or put your efforts elsewhere. In any case, don’t fall into a pit of resentment just because lots of users are approaching a platform differently than you.

People notice things that they are self-conscious about. Not even that they’re necessarily insecure about it, but when you think about something a lot, you tend to notice it in other people as well.

So I’d say it’s because your friends and family think a lot about their own appearances. Likely because they’re insecure about their own appearances.

It sounds like you’re not the type of person who wants to have kids. And that’s fine, you do you.

But if you’re interested in another perspective: I had close friends of mine lose one of their twin daughters at only a couple months of age. I played a song at their funeral. And it was, by a large margin, the saddest funeral I have ever attended. In addition to the parents definitely having a strong connection to the child, there’s something tragic about a young innocent life being snuffed out so early.

As another poster mentioned, this may have something to do with cultural differences. Which again is fine, just take the opportunity to have a serious conversation with your husband about what parenthood means to both of you. It’s one of the most difficult things you’ll ever do, and being caught by differing expectations (especially to this degree) when you’re exhausted with sleep deprivation is not ideal.

The brain does what it must to survive. We normalize things that are insane to keep us from going insane. It’s… weird.