If more people had a backbone and spoke out / refused to implement shitty stuff, this wouldn’t happen.

Thus, it’s more than just the web developers 😄 . Product needs to have a backbone to stand up to their boss, too. I fought really hard to get rid of the mouse tunnels at that job, but was blocked by product and one of the directors of eng. It was mostly [office] political nonsense

Also, many design choices are entirely on the web developer.

Not at most of the companies I’ve worked out. There’s a design person or team. Eng can give feedback, but it’s pretty rare for them to be given a blank check.

I’m not gonna change my opinion until websites become usable again, you’re wasting your time on me.

That’s fine. Some web developers are morons, but some of everyone are morons. We can partially agree.

Most web developers are morons in the sense that most people are morons. They’re not especially moronic.

A lot of problems on the web aren’t coming from the developers. They’re management pushing for stuff.

Like, at an old company the UI had really bad mouse tunnels (mouse over menus and sub menus that close if you mouse out). Terrible interface. But someone in management liked it and no one would approve changing it. Easy to look at it and say we’re all morons, but most of the stupid there was from leadership.

Capitalism is a root cause. Let’s get rid of that, or if that’s too extreme that severely regulate it.

Jail all of Facebook’s decision makers. Seize it (investors get nothing), and either shut it down or revert it to a simple message board. Require moderators. Ban the trash (eg: sovereign citizens groups). Remember that time they tried to see if they could make people sad by changing the algorithm? Find those people and ruin them.

Pay labor more. Work them less. I’d just do basic income, personally.

Make more walkable spaces. Fuck car culture. You don’t meet anyone when you drive. Everywhere could have local spots where you see regulars.

More free public events. Brooklyn does “movies under the stars”. There’s also like yoga classes, bird watching, concerts. More of that.

Offer free education for anyone who applies in good faith. Offer classes on a range of subjects, but honestly I think a lot of people would benefit from lessons and practice on “how to talk to people” and public speaking.

Kind of a ramble. But I think if you leave capitalism in place, you’re going to have problems. “Everything has to make the owners as much money as possible, immediately” isn’t a formula for a good life.

I don’t know man, i think the simpler answer of “capitalism and profit motive create incentives that don’t yield good outcomes” is compelling. Okcupid was better and more feature rich before Match bought it.

There is some user error on the apps, though, as you say.

I would prefer basic, subtle, black. I don’t want rainbows and lights. I’m very function over form.

I’d also rather play a game on medium settings where it runs flawlessly and doesn’t make the fans go hard, than at high settings with worse performance.

Yeah I think people are too stupid on average to understand. Like how kids think pouring water from a short wide glass into a tall glass means there’s more water, people think one long line means longer wait times.

I feel like education could mitigate this but at least in the US our education isn’t a priority

Perhaps a universal icon for “pick language” would be helpful, like we have a icons for volume control and share. Good luck getting it adopted though.

I’m just going to assume these are republicans and furthermore call them scumbags, hypocrites, and heretics.

Matthew 6

1“Be careful not to practice your righteousness in front of others to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven.

2“So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. 3But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, 4so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.

5“And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites, for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. 6But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. 7And when you pray, do not keep on babbling like pagans, for they think they will be heard because of their many words. 8Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask him.

I don’t know how anyone takes them seriously. They should be laughed out of the room and shunned by polite society. But there are a lot of bullshit “christian” churches peddling nonsense, I guess.

For some reason getting a passport is like $200, plus whatever it takes to get the required supporting documents (eg: birth certificate, the photo). That’s not much by many metrics, but a lot of people in the US just don’t have $200 to spend.

No one’s going to rally around creepy Mike Johnson’s corpse. No one cares about the guy Luigi (allegedly) shot.

I think they’re making a joke (what with the /s), but some people will say that since “Nazi” is derived from “national socialist” it’s a form of socialism. Usually people making that claim are arguing in bad faith and/or are grossly misinformed.

Even republicans don’t want fascism.

They don’t? How can you tell?

Dislike:

• poor search engine results
• relatively small

I want it to get to a level where you find the good stuff reddit used to have. Like niche hobbies, detailed analysis, etc.

I’m doing my part, I guess

A metroidvania a la celeste, cave story, untitled story, hollow knight, nine sols, guacamelee? That’s a genre I like that’s pretty popular. Side scroller for that kind of game is well understood.

Without more information about what your goals are, I’d do side scrolling. Assuming it’s like a platformer. If you’re making like an RPG or tactical combat game, probably top down.

Possessive is normally done with an apostrophe. The dog’s toy. The apartment’s lobby.

But when possessive goes on the pronoun “it”? No apostrophe.

Look out for the monster. Its fangs are sharp.

If you put an apostrophe, that’s for “it is”.

This bothers me slightly. There’s history illinonating why it happened, but I don’t like it.

No. A well executed flirt can make someone interested when they weren’t before. You flirt with the cute girl at the party and if she’s receptive, maybe ask her out or ask to kiss. Or not. Sometimes flirting is just fun for itself.

Standing there in chaste politeness is going to create a whole different scene with different outcomes.

You can be an extremely hot man but if you can’t converse better than “idk lol” and never ask any relevant questions, you’re unlikely to have a good time. People like when potential matches are interested in them.

Your message I’m replying to seems fine, so that’s promising.

Many people go to clubs and meetups to do the thing the club is about. If you go to the bike riding club or bird watching club looking for dates, people are going to pick up on that and probably react unfavorably.

If you go just to do the thing, that’s fine, but you could do that for years without ever finding a date.

I wouldn’t recommend this as a primary means of finding a partner.

Yes and no. Capitalism has lead to shitty experiences for users, but also users self sabotage. It is possible to find success for free, but you’ll probably need to spend time and effort on it.

On the one hand, they are capitalist shit holes. They want to make money, not find you a partner. There’s not enough competition (match group owns a lot of different apps). Those are big factors in why they suck. They’re going to keep asking you to pay for more, and there’s no competition to drive down prices or force innovation. This absolutely sucks and should be changed, but good luck getting the current US government to do anything good.

The other problem is many users are frankly bad at using the apps. They have a blank profile, or one that has no hooks. When they get a message, they dead end the conversation instead of engaging. They ghost.

Don’t be like that. Don’t send generic messages. Have a profile that funnels people into interesting stuff you want to talk about. When the app has a space to write your hobbies, do not write “lol I dunno”. That’s stupid and self sabotage. Write something (true) that gives people an entry point to talk to you. “I really like making pizza! I’m working on perfecting a stuffed crust recipe” is basic but gives them something to talk about. Many people fuck this up and then are like “why does no one send me interesting messages??”. They don’t know you. If you don’t present anything interesting, they’re not going to know.

Once you have the conversation going, ask them out. I’ve heard many people complain about this problem. Guys will match and then text and text and text for days or weeks, and never ask them out. Then they complain “I never get a date!”. Self sabotage. Match, ask a question about their profile, have one or two exchanges, clear any deal breakers (eg: if you’re divorced or have kids), then ask them out. That’s it. That’s the game. People fuck this up and blame the apps.

You don’t need to be mega good looking. That’s just a bullshit self comforting excuse. I used to have a horrible cave man beard and none of my clothing fit right. Still got dates. The bar for men is in hell. If you can converse, be kind, and pay attention to them you’re already ahead of the curve. Getting a good hair cut, clothes that fit, and a good photo helps, but do not think you are immutably unattractive. That’s nonsense.

Your location matters a lot more. If you live in bumblefuck, Wisconsin, where there are 23 people in your age and gender range, you’re going to have a bad time. There’s a special place in hell for people who lie on their profile, though. Don’t say you live in New York when you “might move there some day” or commute in for work.

I never paid for the apps. When I’d use them every day, I could typically get a date a week. Some were just the one date, some lasted weeks, and a couple lasted longer. I’m about 40 and largely unremarkable. You have to put time and effort in. Every day, go through profiles and send quality messages. Most will go nowhere. Don’t be discouraged.