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Cake day: July 3rd, 2023

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  • Yes, it’s very common. There are many reasons.

    Sometimes I’m just excited to share something. Could be something trivial (“i saw a cat on the walk over and it looked right at me and said ‘meow’!”). Could be something bigger (“They finally fired Useless Bob at work”)

    Sometimes people want to vent. Talking about something can be emotionally soothing.

    Sometimes people want help or advice. “I can’t believe I’m spending $20 a day on lunch. The stupid sandwich I got wasn’t even good. What’s your strategy?”

    Humans are social creatures.






  • If I have money, I give it to them if they aren’t raising any danger flags. Like there’s one woman who just screams “I’M HUNGRY” at people, and I’m sure that’s true, but I don’t engage with her because it feels unsafe. There’s one whose name I learned, and another couple we recognize each other now.

    I used to make good money (low six figures). Giving away $20/week to people asking for it wasn’t even noticeable in my budget. I could probably have done $200/week without noticing. I think my peers are just bad at budgeting though.

    I’ve been unemployed for a while now, so I don’t always have cash to give. I tell them the truth.

    I don’t expect people who have nothing to give a lot. But I know many of my six figure salary peers could give without even noticing the money, and they don’t. They don’t give to charity, either. They just buy video games they don’t play, run the AC so they have to wear a hoodie inside, and so on.










  • They tried, but I don’t think they did a great job.

    I was limited by time and duration. I wasn’t allowed to start playing games until like 3pm, and wasn’t allowed to play after dinner. (If I went to someone else’s house, the rule didn’t apply. If someone came to my place, video games were also allowed, but my parents didn’t like people coming over). I also had to finish all my homework first. I remember just watching the clock on the weekends waiting for it to tick over to 3pm, then dashing up the stairs to the games.

    For some reason, I was allowed to watch as my TV as I wanted. I’m old and tv was limited, and we didn’t have all the channels.

    What ended up happening is I would lie. I would say I had finished my homework when I hadn’t to get that sweet, limited video game time. I would say I was watching TV in the basement but I was playing games with the sound down.

    This trashed my school habits. I was doing all my homework the morning it was due. I was a smart kid so everything was still getting done well enough for me to get B’s, but this wasn’t great. When I got to college I had no study habits or learning stamina.

    To this day I kind of find tv and other passive watching unsatisfying. I never watch anything on my own. Only with someone else.

    I don’t know what would have worked better. The clock based limit felt terrible though. Really hated that. Maybe if they had explained “if you put all your stat points in video games now, when skill ups are cheap, you’re going to be underpowered later” it would have landed.