Namely: there became another human in our lives. Our children became our central focus in our lives.
Being a family is a different dynamic and being a parent is a significant role in life. It is a relentless onslaught of needs and chores for someone that is neither of you. Babies don’t know boundaries and that has a very real effect on their caregivers.
If you’re birthing a baby: be aware of post partem, don’t be afraid to seek help, talk about it, and you deserve a chance to breathe regularly.
If someone is birthing your baby: giving that someone alone time with themselves (usually by having time with said baby yourself) is one of the most important devices for bringing you all together sans conflict.
Essentially if a mother can get the mental load of parenting off for a day–a few hours even–there should not be any (new) trouble acheiving or maintaining intimacy.
Ctrl+A + Del.
So clean.