Hell yea, bröther.

Fuckin’ love that thing.

I have a Boker Kwaiken, a real nice one, but man do I love the DW-1. It’s so wee you can really use it anywhere without worrying about freaking anyone out and it does things like box cutting waaaay better than a longer knife.

“Never interrupt your enemy while they are making a mistake.”

I’m not trying to imply that beduins are the enemy, more that insanely stupid people are and since I don’t wanna get into eugenics, well, this is all I got.

Absolutely a little awkward for a bit. But you got a big friendly hello and that’s a win, yea?

Was just thinking maybe her friend said or offered to say and she went “why the fuck should I care?”. Everything is equally possible, take ‘er easy and remember that you’ve got this no matter how it’s sliced :)

I think just go about your business assuming her friend kept it on the down-low, and it doesn’t seem like it’s led to her treating you worse so all good. Nothing to be embarrassed about if you trust her to be a good person, which you seem to.

I get it, of course, it’s certainly a little awkward and not a position I would want to be in. I’ll bet the not knowing if she knows is probably worse than if you could know for sure she does, eh?

If ya’ll were gunna date she’d find out pretty quick anyway, and if that’s a deal-breaker for her then you’re probably better off staying friends. And maybe her friend is a bro, or at least a professional, and didn’t say anything.

If you didn’t even want to date her at some point, then it really ain’t anything, ya know?

You’re gunna be sad, and that makes sense. I mean, why wouldn’t you be? You’ll have moments of being mad at them, too, and that’s ok as long you don’t act out on those feelings.

It’s important to keep yourself occupied, not to distract from the pain but keep yourself moving forward and remind yourself that you are your own person and have value outside of the relationship, alone or with friends or however, you are still a person and not just their ex. You’ll be sad a lot, and some days forward will feel like backwards, but you’ll get there in time.

I wrote a journal, just on my phone, for a year. It’s amazing how much you’re expecting to write about how bad your day had gone but by the time you get writing you’ve had time to be outside of the big feelings for a bit and most days are, even if not great, better than you’d thought.

If you can get access to a therapist, and even if all you do is talk at them, that can be awesome for getting things off your chest, too. It can help you set these feelings down for even an hour and get used to that lightness. Therapy doesn’t have to give you answers, sometimes all it needs to do is give you relief enough to find them on your own.

And lastly, it’s ok to miss them. You aren’t spiralling when you miss them, you’re thinking about good things and you shouldn’t force yourself away from those thoughts. Give yourself time to recalibrate and get used to the fact that you’ll always have good memories, and in time they will weigh less and not hit as hard.

I agree with 95% of this message but don’t love how it sounds like you’re encouraging them to try to force themselves to not think of it as it’ll just come back. I agree that finding things to do is great and will ease you out of the pain but if you’re trying to stay away from the painful thing the best you’ll get is being just unprepared for the next time it, or something similar, happens.

Hobbies and stuff are awesome for reminding yourself that you still have value outside of the relationship or that you can find new enjoyments and aren’t locked into only one way of being. They can also bring new friends, or at least aquaintances, and that can help bring variety. But trying to force not thinking about the issue will likely just delay it.