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  • Absolutely, but I think you misunderstood me…

    Let’s pretend for a moment Cosby is not a rapist; why do anyone infer that, because his comedy was good, he would be a good role model or have savvy life advice to give or know about politics, etc?

    I completely agree with you that it’s is almost impossible to enjoy whatever celebrities do (art, sports, etc) if they are horrible people. however, that line is subjective. Many would still like Cosby if we had found out he does not donate to charity or even if he is an absent dad or if he were a terrible driver… obviously the rapist thing goes too far



  • I think the devil is in the details…

    I have a couple who were close friends, they separated and initially we tried hard to support him as it seem he would have continued the marriage but she was the one moving away from it. Our thought process at the time was “she has something to look forward to, he seems to feel left behind”

    We did not treat her badly or anything but did basically cater to his every need, providing as much support as we could.

    Then, once the initial shock was over, he started attacking her in every possible way. And on top of that, he started shunning our every invite under the pretext “he didn’t want to accidentally run into her” which was complete BS as we did not regularly hung out with her.

    Finally, she was so broke after years of court battles that she opened a go fund me campaign and we donated some money. Well well well, this friend who had all but shunned us suddenly calls me raging that I am helping her and by doing so undermining his righteous effort to take vengeance on her.

    All of this to reiterate that the devil is in the details… were these friends actual friends of yours before the divorce? did you concern yourself with their needs back then? have you been an asshole to them before, during or after the divorce? There is a real chance these were not great people to begin with, but I find it hard to believe that all your true friends decided to just ghost you for no reason whatsoever