Berttheduck

34 male. Grew up with 3 siblings. Always wanted kids when I was younger. As I got older, met my wife and started living together we had lots of discussions about kids. She was never really interested in them and the whole pregnancy and giving birth thing terrified her.

On lots of reflection I realised that I was only interested in kids because of family and societal pressure, I think the world is over populated and generally heading downhill (fascism is massively on the rise globally, global warming, various wars) so decided that I didn’t want to bring a child into that.

There’s plenty of children in the foster system so if we change our minds later we can adopt and give a good home to a child that needs one.

This isn’t a question random people on the internet can answer easily, but I can offer you some things to think about which might help.

I’m in a medical field in the UK and do some interviewing so I’d be asking you why you want to pick a job with long hours, bad pay (comparatively for the responsibility), poor working conditions? Medicine is not a job for people who want to breeze through or are just a little bit interested in biology and people.

I’d recommend you get some work experience, health care assistant jobs are commonplace in the UK and a great way to see if medicine is right for you, universities here look on it very favourably as well. If you can do a 12 hour shift where you are exposed to blood, poo, urine and vomit and still want to go back for more then I’d say medicine is probably an ok field for you.

What are your goals? Helping people is a common response in medical interviews but you can help in lots of ways, law like you’ve already been considering, engineering, accounting etc. What do you get out of medicine that you can’t get elsewhere?

Do you want to make lots of money and have an easier life, don’t pick medicine, pick something else.

No. Chavs were the school bullies for me growing up so I get a pretty strong visceral ewe from that style choice.

My Dad’s gone totally off the rails conspiracy theory nutty.

Fake moon landings, fluoride in the water is mind control, vaccines cause autism and maybe microchips and mind control again, foreign people are simultaneously lazy stealing benefits and stealing all the jobs, my god the racism. He fell into an echo chamber during COVID and hasn’t come out again.

The best one was when I was telling him as a healthcare professional on the front lines watching patients and colleagues die that COVID was serious and we should take any opportunity to avoid it and make it better, he told me it was just flu and all fake news.

Yeah I don’t talk to my parents much anymore.

Generally speaking a beer is 2 units, in the UK we recommend no more than 14 units in a week. If you want to stop talk to your doctor if you can or seek help. Stopping or reducing is much easier with help.

I got myself an Onyx boox e ink tablet for note taking. I don’t know if it’s what you’re looking for but it runs android and writes beautifully. Good battery life with the e ink. I love mine. It is more expensive than an equivalent standard tablet though and no back light on my model.

We used to watch a lot of game theory. Really enjoyed the over analysis. Stopped part way down the 5 nights at Freddie’s rabbit hole when all the drama started.