Like, seriously, I have had a few people talk about how my fiancé wasn’t conventionally attractive, but he’s attractive to me :)
Plus, he’s good to me, and I don’t date for looks. I’ve had conventionally attractive exes too who have been horrible people, so…
Everyone’s definition of attractive is different, but typically everyone wants their partner to be both loving and attractive. It’s the “full package.”
So they care because they want you to have both, they want the best for you. So long as you find him attractive, that should be good enough.