The context makes it worse, but I’m just trying to gauge how fucked up normal people would find this, because being raised by this kind of person messed with my calibration.
It’s not out of the realm of possibility that it’s normal for your family, but for most families that wouldn’t be normal.
If you’re family is open about being sex positive, if talking with your parents about masturbating wasn’t weird as a teenager, then I don’t think it’s that weird of a college send off gift.
I’m gonna go with somewhere around super duper.
It depends on the actual intention but it potentially falls under what is referred to as covert incest, especially if there’s a pattern. It’s not something people talk about a lot but it’s more common than you’d think and it can definitely have a lasting impact.
In on itself it’s not directly red flags I’d say. It depends on the family, it depends on a lot of things. Maybe they’re just oen about sexuality and don’t see it as a big deal. As long as there is no abuse involved, I think it should be fine.
It’s unusual for sure and I’m guessing that if the birthday boy opened up this present in public this would have caused a lot of uncomfortable laughter, sure.
It’s an unusual gift and would make most people incredibly awkward but there’s nothing sinister in the act itself, absent of the context. People gift things like guns and alcohol and I would argue those do more harm.
You know… Technically speaking there is probably much more incest in Utah than any other state.
No, it’s ok, it’s just soaking, which a lot of them are convinced doesn’t count
/s, in case it needs to be said
Lol don’t
Same energy as grandad buying his grandson a sex doll. Make sure to not buy the Gazorpazorps Gwendolyn model.
Very. When I want to get off, I don’t want my Mum involved.
Not even with broken arms?
Your poor mother with broken arms most certainly should’nt be involved.
Why must I keep being reminded of this :(
If anyone isn’t familiar: they’re referencing a rather touching story, definitely Google it.
::: spoiler Plsdont :::
Touching is the right verb.
this isn’t reddit
This is the internet!
Haha I know a /r/neverbrokeabone member when I see one.
The only thing more fucked up is if you broke both arms.
I didn’t know what a fleshlight was and assumed OP misspelt Flashlight, assuming OP expected something bigger for their 18th birthday. Needless to say, the comments were quite confusing.
its extremely wierd, and getting close to oedipus/fruedian territory. maybe as a gag gift, if the son is doing something like porn, but even that is sitll wierd.
It depends - are their arms broken?
a semi obscure Reddit reference appears
It’s an older meme, but it checks out.
14 years ago, just checked. Here’s the link, just in case there’s someone who never heard of this story:
https://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/nmmjr/iama_man_who_had_a_sexual_relationship_with_his/
Direct link to the comment explaining it.
jesus wtf did i just read…
A modern classic!
In that case why would they need a fleshlight?
Physical therapy tool for when their arms heal and mom is at work
You can mount them on a wall.
The mother?
Might need a big hook.
I… Uh… Might have been raised in a culture that is quite different from yours, but I’d say very abnormal.
It’s entirely possible for a mother & son to have a loving, honest, and very Open relationship. They can discuss anything and be supportive.
Giving that kind of gift could fit right in with the dynamic. Or, a family could enjoy giving “gag gifts” and it could be one of those.
It does not have to be a weird or bizarre gift.
Yeah, context is very important. It goes from fucking weird, to funny depending.
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I fall into the latter category. At one point while I was growing up my dad gave my recently-divorced aunt a glow-in-the-dark vibrator for Christmas, and everyone thought it was hilarious. My sister and I had to pretend we didn’t understand what it was. Grandma I think maybe actually didn’t know what it was.
I definitely also have known people who would be mortified to even hear that story, much less have it happen to them. It really does just depend on the dynamic.
Yeppers
True, fair, and open minded. But if that were the case, though, then the question wouldn’t need to be asked.
I’m going against the majority.
It can be made into a weird situation, but the act itself is pragmatic and likely comes from a caring place.
Every parent with a son knows that theyre buffing the helmet any chance they get as teenagers. They’re gonna make messes, ruin washcloths, use all the hand lotion, etc. Any parent who thinks their son ain’t beating their meat like it owes them money is delusional. Long before your kids get to masturbation age, the parent(s) should have talked about it. If you wait until they get to the age of shame, that is going to be an uncomfortable and unproductive conversation. If you have had an ongoing and open dialog about sex, masturbation, their bodies and other topics, talking about some of the details later will not be a taboo topic. Thusly if the parent offers a masturbatory device to the child, it won’t be weird unless someone wants to make it that way. If the conversations have not taken place and you still want to get your kid a sex toy, you could just order something online and leave it for them without saying anything. You could also get them a gift card to the sex store so they can get something for themself. While I presume most teenage boys dont want to share their private acts of self - gratification with their parent, there is no reason why there cannot be practical honesty about them. Get your kid a sex toy, leave it in his room, and unless he wants to talk about it, assume that he will get many hours of satisfaction from it.
I fully agree, this is a pragmatic gift if you kept your discourse about sexual topics open with your child from the beginning. I would’ve gone for a gift card so they can choose themselves in privacy, but it’s fine either way.
For prudish families who learnt of this gift this would be gossip material for the next year tho. So many puritans in the US, the neighbors might be the biggest issue, so i would’ve kept it on the down low.
Giving their son a sex toy, whatever, not common, but it can help have a normal conversation about sex and realistic expectations.
For his birthday, kind of weird. I don’t think it should so formal a thing. Just so it and have the conversation about safe sex and how porn isn’t like real sex.
For his 18th, uhhhh little late to the party.
Okay but also giving a kid a sex toy before their 18th birthday is how you end up on a list and have to tell your neighbors about it.
I think most teens want parents who are caring and involved, but not in your face to this extent. They embarrass easy
