I’m 19M, my girlfriend is 17F. We’ve been dating for almost a year now. Her family has no idea though, because she refuses to tell them; and it honestly hurts. My family loves her. Her family’s Muslim and she says that’s the reason she can’t tell them yet, but she will… eventually. I get that they’re Muslim, but come on, we live in the West and it’s a free country. I’ve never pressured her about it but it still upsets me.

  • ryedaft@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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    8 days ago

    Is she the oldest child?

    And maybe she is scared that her family will kick her out. Having to do school without a family network can be very hard. Common advice for gay teens with homophobic parents is to wait with coming out until you have moved out.

    And yes, you love her and you’ll support her but then she will be very dependent on you and your relationship will become lopsided. You don’t want that. You want her to be with you because she loves you. So please be patient with the person you love.