I want an app that i can click yes/no or stay/go daily or several times per day to track the data. Seen one of those?
I’m terrified of leaving, but not for myself, for them. I provide a tremendous amount of support for the individual and their family. I know the outlook for them personally is bleak without my presence but their family just loses a loving and dependable person. Hope you find the strength and support you need to do what’s best for yourself friend.
So you basically became mommy?
I made many spreadsheets about how the finances would work if I left, children are expensive. Finally after three years I said I wanted a divorce. It went ok, after that.
Not with a person, but with work. Was my dream job until I realized my dreams have changed, but it pays the bills. Don’t know what else will make me a living wage right off the bat either.
I’ve become fed up with a job I’ve had for a long time. I’m confused about what I even want to do because the changes and decisions that management keeps making has me burnt out at even the concept of my job.
I’ve known for well over a year that it is time to make a change, but that has gotten much more urgent recently. The problem is that it’s really haste to leave a well paying job for another I doubt will pay as well.
I’m in a work relationship that I’m considering leaving. Working in education has become much more difficult. On top of that, new bosses came in a couple of years ago and they’re incredibly micromanaging. I’m on a health break right now and may not go back once I’m better and ok switching insurance.
The part about insurance hits close to home. Every time I think about transitioning over to self-employment, I shrink back into my shell when I realize how much of a headache insurance will become, huge cost whether or not I turn a profit.
That was me two years ago (and some change) when I was still married. My ex wife was the one to pull the trigger, and it was the best thing she could have done for the both of us (and our kids).
I was mad at her for a while. It was also terrifying having to move out and start over by myself, with no friends, and being a single father every other week. But I am sitting here in my house, hanging out after coming home from the gym, and simply enjoying the quiet time I have.
Yeah, I do miss having a relationship. It would be nice if I had friends too (I lost those in the divorce). But, it’s also nice to not have anybody but myself to answer to sometimes. And if I don’t do the dishes or take out the trash, there’s nobody there to give me attitude about it; it still gets done, but on my schedule and my terms.
All of that to say that if you’re genuinely not happy, and you feel there is nothing left to fight for, maybe leaving is not the worst thing you can do; it’s scary as fuck, but not that bad in the long run. Save your money, make your plans, and be open and honest with your partner when the time comes.
I was. I was scared for the other person, similar to another commenter. Without me, they were going to have nothing. But I got sick of setting myself on fire to keep them warm, and I was crawling out of my skin with misery.
Our divorce will be finalized soon and I feel better than ever. Now that I’m on the other side of it all and healing, I just can’t believe how long I stayed. No one in my support network liked them and honestly I really don’t like them either, now that I’m gone.
And despite all of my fears of them being destitute and depressed, they’ve realized they’re a freaking adult and can stand on their own two feet. Crazy how that works
Well the trajectory in my current relationship is settle down in the USA, and I haven’t really ever broached the subject of how that seems like a mistake to me, and the whole economic system is a house of cards based on stealing hard work from the rest of the world. We’ll burn that bridge when we get to it. For the moment I want this to go on forever, so I don’t talk about any of that. My pipe dream is she randomly says we need to move far away. I don’t think that will happen.
Do we count relationships with one person as valid relationships? Because I don’t want to be in my skin but I’m terrified of leaving 🤣
You don’t have to leave if you can remodel. Best wishes on your journey to improve.
Thank you. I’m actually doing pretty good in the large, just having a rough day in the small.
No but I was before. Wasn’t scared at all. Just kept it longer than it needed to be kept. We both broke up and got back and tried again. Repeat and rinse. Basically it was an extra year of drama we never needed but had because we refused to let go. Then we broke up anyway lol.
I was in a relationship from age 22 to 30 and for the last half I was miserable but thought it was the best I could do and would be forever alone. She cheated on me and I almost killed myself over it but turned out to be a blessing in disguise
In a new relationship for the last 3 months with a girl who’s hotter, smarter, younger and is obsessed with anal and unlike my ex I actually think I’ll put a ring on this one
Just leave them and don’t waste your 20s like me if you’re young
