My dad has recently been caught having an affair with his young personal assistant. Huge scandal; mom was very angry. Now they’re in the middle of divorce proceedings. Mom moved out, the other woman moved in and I chose to stay with him because we’re super close; he’s like my best friend. Now mom’s telling me to go and live with her and go no contact with him cause he’s a bad person and by continuing having a relationship with him I’m condoning his actions and “ignoring her suffering”. My relationship with my dad hasn’t changed, I don’t see why I should end it.

  • ValiantDust@feddit.org
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    6 days ago

    You can turn this around as well. Their mom asking them to stop having contact with their father is her choosing to take away their father from them. If that’s what she wants to do…

    Children should not be pulled into the relationship problems of their parents. The parents are the ones who chose to have a child together, they are the ones who have to deal with the consequences of that.

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      6 days ago

      I’m just trying to give the mothers perspective. I know nothing else about these people besides one is willing to throw away the love and trust of someone they’re supposed to be closest with for their own selfish gain.

      What caused that to happen I can’t speak for.

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      6 days ago

      And the dad is the one who bought those relationship problems to move in with his son.

      The dad has 100% already pulled his son into this before the mother ever said anything.